Why dont my parents want to me travel with my bf and his family? I am soon 20 years old!!?

My bf & his mom are planning to travel in Lanzarote this xmas until new yrs eve. I know that we just move 2 our new flat and it'll be our first christmas n new year here. I asked my dad before if I could come with them in England, n he said "No!" I really know that they dont want me to make love with my bf cause they are afraid for me to be pregnant, but we use condoms everytime! I am soon 20, but they dont allow me to be with 'em especially when they are traveling. I am so SCARED to ask my parents if I could come with them this Dec.2006 coz I know what they will gonna answer back. I REALLY WANNA GO THERE! I have been celebrating xmas n new yr with them for 19 years!!!
I hate this fucking damn family ever!! I CANT DECIDE FOR MY OWN! I CANT TRAVEL, ALWAYS HAVE TO BE HOME BEFORE 9 EVENING!!! WTF?! Yes i am asian, moving to europe but do i have to follow the asian culture though i am living here for 3 yrs? Itsdiffiult for me coz I DONT FUCKING KNOW WHICH CULTURE I SHOULD FOLLOW? HELP!!!!

sorry, cant really help here other than to say that you should respect your parents a little more.. as for the knowing which culture thing, YOU have to decide what is best and what is in your heart... God bless

pray on it and follow your heart.

While it sucks not being able to go.. you've already said your answer. If your 19, almost 20, you are over 18 and you can make your own decisions.
If you choose to go.. your parents can't stop you. They could stop giving you money if they already do and be really hurt, but they are your parents and you cant always make them happy.

Sweetie, you need to follow you heart and do what is right for you. If spending x-mas with your bf is so important, then that what you need to do! Let your family know that they raised you right and that you need to find your own path now. Hope that helps Babe!:)

Yes, you have to follow the Asian culture as long as your Asian self lives with your Asian parents. Find a job, move out... and be as European as can be.

You're almost 20 years old, so legally you're an adult. If you want to go with your boyfriend and his family, then go and have a great time. Don't ask your dad for permission, tell him this is what you want to do. I know Asian culture is very strict for women, but your parents have to understand that you are an adult now. I wish you good luck in your decision.

Because your parents are aware that you and your bf are only interesyed in fucking alone and not the sacred love which may last long. You being asian have repatriated to western culture to the extent of fucking alone and I think that pleasure guides you to your bf and your bf to you. Therefore get rid of such fucking friends. The reply is in your own words.

You're old enough to move out and live your own life. If you're not ready to do that, then you're too immature to make your own decisions and need to stop whining about having to listen to the people who are supporting, and taking care of you.

Your parents only want to help you and protect you. they care about you and want the best for you. Tell them you will pay and it will be no expence to them.