Am I victimizing myself? I moved to the us for the first time 8 months ago from Eastern Europe.....?

My family never had a lot of money, we never had a car so nobody in my family could drive.In 2oo6,after graduating from high school,I got engaged and moved out a few weeks before having to start college.Got married and that brought me to the US(spring,last year).Things are falling apart for me though since my husband tells me I am too dependent on him(I am 20)and that turns him off all the time.I only got my driver's permit, I am a bit scared to drive,I had a job, but quit because of emotional instability,all our problems would make me cry every day.Our intimacy level is very low,haven't made love in 4 months.He just puts it all on this whole dependence thing.on the flip side,he watches porn,flirts online with women or gay men,would much rather look at cars and motorcycles instead of spending any time with me :( I've got no self confidence left.He buys me flowers,gifts, perfumes.. there's just nothing physical between us.Plus I was a virgin when we met.Isn't that ironic!?
what sex? what bj's? He's always the first one to get out of bed in the morning. When you are rejected like that, you just can't fight it anymore, it does really hurt your feelings. I always keep the house clean for him, not to worry. And I am pretty damn good at cooking too. I am only 20, I can't really go clubbing anywhere.Plus I would have to ride the bus, and here in hawaii there are a lot of weird people in the bus. I tried to develop some hobbies, but I just get drawn back to the way things are between us. :(

I think you are victimizing yourself

Your husband just wants you to stop acting like a KID, and
grow up

Get a job or go to college if he can afford it,

GIVE the man sex at least everyother DAy,
BJ's men love those more than sex

get a life, DON"T live for HIM, live for you

COOK AND CLEAN the house,
that is what MANY husbands like

M

He is no good SOB I suggest you going back home to your family for a while and see how he reacts being single again.

Maybe you're not doing anything to help yourself to survive. Maybe he is feeling the same thing too.

you should pick yur inner strenght and go out there with confidence and not rely on your other half too much.
try to make friends by going to gym / group activities.
try keeping yourself fit and looking good .

wish you luck

Your husband sounds like the man I married at 19, someone who was never into sex (although he was handsome and only 22 himself). I always suspected he was gay. Some men are just not wired right in the brain and prefer porn to a real woman, but if he's talking with gay guys online that's a huge indication that he's gay himself. Any decent guy who loved you would be there for you to guide you into life in this country and would love to help you! You do NOT need to put up with his emotional abuse/absence. Leave him and find a real man who is straight and will love you like you deserve to be loved!

Which country in Eastern Europe did you come from? Is your husband from there too?