My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years says he has to travel for business. Should I go with him?

We have lived together for about a year. He goes away for 1 weekend a year with his guy friends, which I have no problem with. Recently a new company bought the company where he works and wants someone to travel across the country to their headquarters for a week to learn their way of doing things and train others. He was asked and said yes without asking me first. Then he said he would try to get out of it if I didn't want him to go and later said he didn't even try - that he really wants to go and sees it as a free vacation/opportunity to travel. I told him I have vacation time and that I was going to take the week off too and go somewhere else - which he was OK with - then I asked if I could go with him. He got excited about the idea and said he didn't think of it before. Should I go? Make him cancel the trip? Or just let him have his time by himself? Oh - unattractive fat femaled coworker would travel with him. Any advice?

i'd go with, it's a free vacation for you to and you get to spend it with him instead of apart....go have fun....

no, do not go with him

If he's excited about you going with him then go...

But if you're forcing yourself on him, let him breathe...

If you have cause not to trust him, then confront him about it.

Sounds like it's already a touchy situation. I mean, if you tell him that maybe you shouldn't go, he'll feel pressure because he doesn't want you to think that he doesn't want you around or that you're smothering him. At the same time, you can't hold his hand through everything in life. Trust is as important as it gets. If he truly got excited about you coming... try to make it special by dining out, etc... don't just loaf around in the hotel.

Have fun!

There is something I do not think you are realizing here. You are not His wife. Regardless of you living with him he needs not ask you if it is OK nor should you be so insecure as to want to follow him like a puppy around. If he wants to cheat he dose not have to go away to do it.

This is a BUSINESS trip!! He is going for work purposes. In fact, unless he clears it with his job that it is OK for you to go with him he could end up in big trouble and he surely will have to pay for all of your expenses since you are not an employee of the company. Why do you think this would be fun? You say he is traveling with a co-worker and it is for his job - this is not going to be fun and games.

Go with him don't worry about the fat, unattractive female or anything else, it seems like he was waiting for you do something like this. Check out what is there for you to do while he is at work and then when he comes home, have some things for you both to do together and be with one another and not worry about the small stuff.

I actually have a job I travel quite a bit for. It sounds like you are upset he didn't clear this with you first. This is his job - he needs to go. If he tries to get out of it, it may be bad for his future options within the company (He may be seen as not being a team player). If he actually is excited, go with him, as long as you are aware you will have to pay all your expenses and probably won't be able to spend any time with him. When I travel, I sometimes let friends come along and stay in my room, but they know they will be entertaining themselves. Your boyfriend probably will be busy with training all day everyday and may have to have at least a few suppers with coworkers. He will not be around to entertain you and you are going to wind up sitting in the hotel room by yourself. If you are prepared to spend all day everyday sightseeing on your own, go along, if not, let him go on the trip and focus.

If for any reason you don't trust him, you need to have that conversation with him now. Plenty of people do cheat on the road, but there are plenty of us who would never do that, including most of my coworkers. We take our jobs seriously, but we don't want to mess up our home lives.

Also, it doesn't matter what the woman going with him looks like. There will be other women in the place where he is going. The coworker is probably less like to be wanting to run around with him than someone he meets there. If they wanted each other, they wouldn't have to go to the other side of the country to have each other.