My husband is traveling to qingdao, China in April and I suspect that he is cheating on me. I need to know...?

I need to know. I can't carry on like this. Can anyone refer me to a reasonably priced private detective in China, I will really be grateful.

Why is your husband going to China? Is it a business trip? Will he be with a female companion? Couldn't you wait til he comes back to the states to find out?

You'd never be able to trust overseas information. You can't call the Better Business Bureau for references.

If you can't live like this, don't.

I bet hes sleeping with under age hookers. That what most business guys do when they go to China. I actually dont know of any but good luck and I honestly hope you catch him if he is up to something.

adri1ali, if you think your husband is cheating on you, then you should confront him about it. Be direct, be honest, tell him you love him, and be frank. Tell him you feel he's been distant, that you don't feel loved, and you wonder if he's being faithful.

If he's not cheating, then he will absolutely be hurt by your accusations, but if he truly, really loves you, then he will forgive you. And now that he realizes how you feel (i.e., neglected, unloved), he might try to patch up your relationship.

If you're afraid that asking him will drive you two apart, then you need to seriously consider whether your relationship is a healthy one. Can you do better? Yes, you can.

If you don't feel comfortable addressing him about this (and it's obvious you don't), you should seriously consider whether or not your relationship is a healthy one, and you might want to consider ending it outright. Divorces are very painful (hopefully, you don't have any kids yet), but you will be so much better off emotionally if you were out of this situation where you can't trust your lover.

If you are not spending 24/7 thinking of ways to give your husband pleasure (inlcuding finding him other women for business trips) says that you should consider going to wife school.

A good wife is always thinking about this.

Hiring a PD in a far away country shows you place no trust in him. Your relationship is already damaged. Do not add insult to injury by having p.d.

That having said, there is nothing like an open communication. Sit down and tell him what is bothering you and tell him that you have heard of business trips ending in relationships. You do not want him to be in such a situation etc.....

There is nothing wrong with that. But whatever you do, do not ACCUSE him. He will get guarded and will not speak.

If you do get an answer that yes, he is with a woman in China then you have confirmed your suspicion. Calmly do what you have to do next, i.e., to take steps to split.